“My hands are out of control.  I don’t know what to do with them.”  Believe it or not, you’ve just taken Step 1 in curing the problem.  You have become aware of the problem.  Now that you are aware, just leave your hands at your sides—not pinned to your sides—but naturally hanging there in a relaxed manner.

Step 2 is to allow yourself to feel the power and importance of what you’re saying.  Your hands will follow in a natural and consistent manner.  Think about it:  When you are telling a friend something exciting that happened or you are making a point that you are passionate about, you don’t choreograph how your hands move, do you?  Of course not.  They move in a manner that supports and synchronizes with what you are saying.

In the same way, when you speak before a group, after the initial case of nervousness has worn off, allow yourself to experience the importance of what you are saying at that moment, and your hands should come along for the ride.